Our society is corrupted and degraded, and childhood injuries and grievances are actively taken from the past and multiplied in adulthood. It is not surprising that in every person, even in a professional psychologist, one or another complex lives, and sometimes their whole “conglomerate”.
Our negative emotions and attitudes prevent us from moving forward, understanding the way of the world, personal development and achieving goals. Men always meet other representatives of the sex, who are sure to find their weak spot and aggravate the complexes within the framework of natural competition. And sometimes women, out of ignorance or on purpose, develop certain fears, grievances, negative attitudes in a man.
For educational purposes, we will tell you about the 10 most frequent complexes in men, which are increasingly found in modern society.
10. David's complex
If you thought that only women count wrinkles and panic about the “ticking biological clock”, then you are very mistaken. Men are also prone to a midlife crisis, they are afraid not to achieve their plans for certain stages of life, they are worried about the withering of their body, health problems. And all this is because we always compare ourselves with others and look for our own shortcomings, instead of recognizing the uniqueness and uniqueness at every stage of life and at any age. A boy at the age of 6 is interested in soldiers - he is not interested in corporate races and the pleasure of sports training, solitude with a woman. And an elderly man, on the contrary, can finally deservedly rest on his laurels, devote time to his beloved work, play with his grandchildren. Few people see the virtues of each pore, continuing to cultivate the David complex in themselves. From here follow infidelity to wives with young lovers, tearing workouts in the gym, anti-aging procedures, botox and braces (yes, for men).
9. Fear of being abandoned
If a man in childhood had an example of betrayal (mother and father divorced, best friend turned his back, etc.), then a complex can be formed that impedes the normal construction of relations. He worries that at work he is perceived only as a tool for achieving goals, and not appreciate personal qualities. She is also afraid that friends will leave if the money runs out or, God forbid, he becomes an invalid. And it’s not worth talking about relationships with women at all - the guy is afraid of a break at the very beginning of communication. The ability to free traitors and mercenary partners into free swimming is the only possible treatment in this situation.
8. The complex of "women's responsibilities"
Skews of masculinity are observed in the fact that the "alpha male" begins to clearly distinguish between female and male work. At the same time, it is very one-sided - a woman can tear at work on a par with him, but at home all the duties and household activities fall only on her shoulders. Such men do not feel self-sufficient, helping their girlfriend, shouldering the burden of routine and domestic problems. Leaving away from the joint construction of a family because of this complex destroyed a single marriage.
7. Complex of Alexander the Great
As they say, negative attachment is also attachment. An unfriendly attitude towards sexual minorities is justified, as homosexuality rereads natural processes and is a physiological and psychological deviation. Many men of good-looking appearance, modest and quiet in nature are afraid that the insidious society will convict them of non-existent "blue". True, such a complex "thrives" in the held alpha males after 40-50, because natural withers of sexual function can be attributed by ill-wishers to imaginary homosexuality.
6. Complex cheating
Everyone is afraid of betrayal, as it is immoral and unnatural. Nature has conceived that it is in a strong and constant tandem, whether it be a couple, union or other human formation, that we develop much faster and more productively than individually. But in a degrading society, few people think about this, changing their sexual partners left and right, betraying their spouses. The man is afraid that he will put his soul, resources, feelings and time into the relationship, and one day, not at all a beautiful day, his young lady will “flap a wing” and run to another, in her opinion, more suitable option. Unfortunately, there is little that can be done, since society objectively falls apart. Learn to be psychologists and choose a partner for life even at the stage of initial communication.
5. The complex of the subordinate
Since caring, “caring” mothers have been driving a “man must” complex into their sons. Although in reality not a single person owes anything to anyone in this life - only to himself. Nevertheless, the boys grow up with the thought that they “must” make their way in life, be strong and confident, strive to lead people and earn a lot of money. At the same time, it does not matter that the child can grow ascetic, a creative person, or even a future monk. Getting initially to an executive position, such a man feels the discomfort that is at the bottom of the hierarchical ladder. Someone finds the cause of their life and refuses conventions raised in childhood, while for others the pendulum “wedges”, and they begin to break into power by all immoral and unscrupulous methods, suppressing others.
4. Complex failed lover
The fact that sexual exploits are important for self-sufficiency of a man is trumpeted by all magazines, friends and other sources of information. A man grows up with the thought that being a good lover is the key to strong family happiness. From here comes the hypertrophied need for a change in sexual partner, the development of new positions and ways of sexual relations. It’s a pity, because a worthy and loving woman will always be happy with a man, regardless of his skills in bed. But a hectic sex life and excessive agility on first dates can push off a really good companion.
3. Napoleon complex
The king of France was very small and suffered so much from it that he even forced to change the average growth indicators in the state. The "small" people often go overcompensation of their lack - they try to be noticeable due to their voice, personality traits, catchy clothes, a kind of defiant behavior. All this stems from our mother nature, because a smaller and weaker male animal rarely claimed to be a female and was suppressed by the herd. But you and I are not animals, but social individuals who are capable of developing their other worthy qualities. For each short man there is a miniature girl who will be behind him like a stone wall. And other people are not at all worried about this issue and go towards their goals, not listening to the judgments of such a subjective and envious society.
2. The complex of small manhood
It is almost like an inverted complex of "small breasts" in women. Men are taught from childhood that the size and thickness of the penis necessarily affects the quality of sex, the ability to have a number of the best “females,” and in general life realization. Oh, how do manufacturers of vacuum enhancers, hormonal preparations and gels, special exercise courses, etc. profit from this pseudo-complex. Looping on small sizes causes such a panic in a man that he even avoids intimate relationships or staying in male companies in every way, which implies exposure to cowards and more. Dear men - study medical statistics and understand that you have absolutely everything in order. And it’s no secret that loyal and worthy girls value a completely different dignity in you, and not this sexual one.
1. Complex mismatch ideal
This complex pursues every person, because in our heads we always hold the ideal of a certain event, achievement, person, etc. It must be remembered that an ideal or taste is absolutely subjective measure, therefore it is impossible to always like everyone. Many men chase after a dream drawn in the head and corrected by society - an ideal body, an ideal job, an ideal woman, etc. You can spend years searching for a set of characteristics, feeling one disappointment, not letting yourself enjoy life to the fullest. Drop conventions and think about what and who your heart really wants? The native soul (friend, colleague, spouse) does not succumb to your standards of ideality, you just meet it and understand - here he is my man!
This article is not a panacea for resolving spiritual torment - for healing the soul and getting rid of complexes, be sure to contact professionals: sexologists, psychologists, psychotherapists and andrologists.