As soon as the child begins to talk, his parents have a new headache - numerous questions that are usually very difficult to find answers to.
The peak of children's curiosity is 4 years. As a result of studies, it was revealed that the child asks about 73 questions a day.
Parents, of course, try to satisfy the interest of the child, tell him about the structure of the world and natural phenomena, transport and buildings, but some questions lead to a dead end even for the most prepared mothers and fathers. We are talking about "uncomfortable" issues.
Most parents solve the problem simply, they ignore the question, or begin to scold the child. You can’t do this. Moms and dads were once small too, but they forgot how important it is for a child to get answers to questions.
The child wants to know everything and is waiting for an explanation. To whom else can he turn, if not to his parents? Therefore, if you are preparing to become parents or your child is already bombarding you with questions, read our article.
Below are 10 “uncomfortable” children's questions that you will have to answer.
10. Am I going to die?
When a child asks this, parents are usually scared. It seems to them that the topic of death is a taboo in dealing with young children. If this question worries your child, you should give an answer. Do not go into details, say that everyone will someday die, only it will not be soon.
Perhaps your child saw something terrible on TV, or you were reckless in talking with other people. It is likely that he is in fear, calm him down. If the child does not talk about death, do not touch on this topic.
9. What will happen after death?
Another question after which parents will want to drink a sedative. Most of them will answer: "Nothing." This is the wrong answer. Until 4 years old, children think in images, so say that people fly to heaven and sit on the clouds.
The child will be completely satisfied with such an explanation. Do not talk about a funeral, about a soul, about hell or heaven. All this leave “for later” when the child grows up a little.
By the way, about the clouds, be prepared for the questions: “On which cloud does the dead bird sit? Or is it only people who can sit there? ” Stick to one version. If mom says one thing and dad says something else - the child is confused, he will not understand who to believe.
8. Does God (Santa Claus) exist?
Quite a popular question that parents still have not found the answer to. You can tell your child about religion or Great Ustyug for a long time, but it’s better to do it differently.
Be honest with your child and say something like that: “This is a very controversial issue. Some people believe in the existence of God, others - Santa Claus, others prefer not to believe in anything at all. This is a personal matter for everyone. ”
Faith and religion are a rather serious topic, and each family has its own attitude to God. If you believe and attend church regularly, you are unlikely to experience difficulty when a child asks about God. Still, do not go into details.
As for Santa Claus, you should not convince the child of his existence, so that in the future he would not have to experience disappointment.
7. Why is the grass green, the sun is yellow, the cat is black?
A child may be interested in things you don’t even think about. There is no need to dodge and come up with something, if you do not know, say so. Promise your child that you will surely find the answer to this question when you get home (or when you have free time).
Do not forget about your promise, be sure to take 10 minutes to look into the encyclopedia or look for the answer on the Internet. If you yourself resemble a walking encyclopedia and can answer any question, remember that you are talking with a small child.
Do not pour in terms, speak a language that is accessible to the child. Otherwise, he will tire and in a few minutes will lose interest, never knowing the answer to the question.
6. Why do not I have such a bicycle (toys, clothes) as a boy / girl?
For many families, material issues are a sore point. Parents work, but money is sorely lacking. When a child asks such a question, I want to break loose and scream: “We buy so much for you, but you don’t appreciate at all!”
Forget about your financial problems (if any) and talk to your child calmly. Explain to him that you are buying what you can afford. All people have different things, someone has a bike, someone has a scooter, and someone prefers a stroller.
Remember that the child did not want to offend you, he just asked a question. Learn to talk with your child about money, so that in the future he understands that parents will not buy everything he wants.
5. What is the difference between girls and boys?
There is a great temptation to talk about physiology, gender differences, but leave this conversation, return to it after a few years. Now try to tell your child that there are no big differences between boys and girls. They experience the same emotions, are offended, upset, and cry.
Do not say that girls should be beautiful and boys should be strong. Do not make your child a victim of the stereotype: "Boys do not cry." Say that they differ in appearance, such an answer will completely satisfy the curiosity of your child.
4. Why are you arguing with mom / dad?
If the child witnessed a quarrel, he will ask this question. Children often consider themselves the cause of a quarrel, they feel guilty.
Tell your child that you simply have a different opinion on one issue, so argue. Try not to quarrel with the child in the future, this negatively affects the psyche. Solve your problems without witnesses.
3. Who do you love more?
Such a question is asked by children who want to attract attention. Most parents will answer: "You." You can’t answer like that. You risk raising a selfish person who is used to the fact that all love always belongs to him.
“I love everyone equally,” is also the wrong answer. No need to equalize all family members, this will offend the child. Tell us that you love everyone with different love. At the end of the conversation, be sure to ask what he thinks about this.
2. Where do the children come from?
If your child doesn’t like cabbage and a stork, tell him a short love story. “Mom and I liked each other and got married, and then you appeared in your mom’s tummy. You are a little older and born. ”
A long story will tire the child, do not talk about how you met, how you made an offer. Explain the process of conception, too, should not. This information is too “adult” for a small child.
1. Why can not I fly? Why am I not a unicorn / pony / dog?
Children often ask questions that make adults laugh. Do not show that you are funny. A question that is absurd for you is absolutely normal for a child. To answer it, you have to turn on the imagination.
Come up with an answer that does not affect the child’s desire to ask and learn new things. In no case do not answer with such phrases: "Do not ask nonsense."
Think about how soon this period will end and the child will not ask you anything. You will miss these stupid, sweet, kind and strange questions.