When a girl gets married, she hopes that her husband will belong only to her. But the honeymoon ends and it turns out that the spouse has his own circle of friends and he does not plan to devote his wife the rest of his life.
Friends play a big role in the life of every person. If a woman cannot make contact with her husband’s friends, the relationship can be severely affected.
If she tries to forbid her husband to communicate with them, he most likely will not listen to her advice, or will communicate with friends secretly. It will not lead to anything good.
A man will be forced to tear between the closest people, one day he will get tired, and he will make a choice. Do not hope that he will be in favor of your beloved woman.
If you still could not find a common language with your husband’s friends, read our article. These tips will help you make friends with them.
10. Always be smiling and welcoming.
When you meet your man’s friends, show friendliness. No one asks you to pretend and pretend that you are delighted with them, just say hello and smile. This is quite enough.
Do not think that your husband’s friends want him to part with you. Men are not at all like women. They will not envy a friend if he is doing well in his personal life.
Forget your preconceptions and try to make contact. A cheerful and friendly woman will not leave anyone indifferent. Be so, and you can find a common language with any man.
9. Drop Skepticism
If it seems to you that your husband’s friends are drunkards, womanizer, foul language, you can never make friends with them. Think about why you have such an opinion about them? Maybe because one of them drank at a holiday or is meeting with two women at once?
Face the truth. Ideal people do not exist. Most likely, you also did not always behave like a pay-girl.
Forget criticism, talk to your husband, ask him about friends. He will be very pleased, he will tell you what kind of people they are. Perhaps your opinion about them will change immediately.
8. Get to know your husband’s friends better
Do everything possible so that your husband’s friends become friends of the family. Try to learn about them as much as possible. To do this, you will have to communicate with them.
Invite your man's friends for dinner. Come up with a few topics that you would like to discuss. Ask questions, take an interest in their life. You will definitely find common interests.
Do not be shy and do not make yourself a queen. Behave naturally. If it’s difficult for you, think that these are the closest people to your beloved man. They do not wish you anything bad.
Do not overdo it, do not arrange an interrogation, do not ask questions about your personal life.
7. Look for a common language
To find a common language, ask your husband what his friends are addicted to. You can prepare a little and read about their hobbies on the Internet.
Do not try to impress an experienced athlete or fisherman if you are not. However, a common language with a man can be found in a simpler way.
Ask questions, smile and listen. Nothing more is needed. Any person will like attention to his person. People like to talk about their hobbies, but do not like to listen.
They are often distracted, grabbing the phone, interrupting, translating the topic, trying to talk about themselves. Become a good listener and people will reach for you.
6. Know how to compromise
Even if you don’t like your husband’s friends, don’t tell him about it. Do not seek to protect your man from these relationships. Learn to come to a common decision.
For example, your husband’s friend needs help. What do most women do in this case? They begin to find out who is more expensive for their husband: she or friends.
A friend needs money, let her husband lend him, only first take a receipt. If friends ask you to take them after the party, offer to call a taxi.
Think about what you would do if your friend had similar circumstances. Most likely, they would also hasten to help.
5. Trust your husband
Building good relationships without trust is impossible. Trust your man. If his friends do not differ in decency in relations with women, this does not mean that your husband behaves in the same way. Perhaps the Don Juan friend had not yet met his only one.
If you release your husband to meet friends, do not torment him with suspicions. Of course, this does not apply to situations where a man gives reason to not believe his words. In this case, you need to look not for a common language with his friends, but for another man.
4. Release your husband to parties with friends
Do not forbid your husband to see friends and go to parties with them. Perhaps they have some traditions that appeared even before you got married.
Maybe they like to go to the sports bar or the nearest cafe. Men love to sit with friends and eat delicious food (and not only), discuss the latest news, and gossip about their personal lives.
Do not deprive your husband of this joy. He needs male communication. You also have friends, you are going to drink a glass of champagne or a cup of tea with pleasure.
If you allowed your husband to relax and let him go to a party or to a bar, do not pester him with phone calls or messages. Do not make him blush in front of friends, it is better to go about your business or arrange a meeting with friends.
The husband will be very grateful to you for allowing him to relax and chat with friends.
3. Do not refuse joint trips to the countryside
If your husband invites you to relax in nature with his friends, do not rush to refuse. City dwellers rarely go outdoors, and yet this is the best way to escape from problems and worries. There is a completely different atmosphere that promotes friendly conversations.
Joint activity also brings together. You can collect firewood for a fire, fish, cook dinner. You will get a unique opportunity to see her husband’s friends as they really are, without masks and without embellishment. Maybe they can get to know their soul mates, if any.
2. Introduce your single friend to your girlfriend
If your husband’s friend is single, introduce him to your girlfriend. If everything goes well, and they will like each other, you will be friends with families.
Just try to make it so that he does not suspect anything. Arrange a “random” meeting. Men do not like to be “wooed”. Your husband’s friend may not like this.
Do not be upset if your expectations are not met. You probably still have unmarried friends. If no one in your circle has liked your husband’s friend, leave him alone.
So, he has not yet met his only one, and you will have to come to terms with the fact that your husband has a single friend.
1. Be witty
Want to find a common language with your husband's friends, chat with them. Do not sit like a mouse in a corner, and do not demonstrate your superiority.
Tell about yourself, smile, show wit, joke. Do not be afraid to laugh at yourself if you find yourself in an awkward situation. Be open to communication, then there will be no problems with your husband’s friends.
But do not get carried away and do not forget about the boundaries of what is permitted. Do not flirt with them, do not allow too much, no touches, friendly hugs. Otherwise, your man will lose both his wife and friends.